Life Changes

As the saying goes, "there is no time like the present." My problem seems to be that by the time I realize it happens to be "the present" the time has already escaped me. This is why I only post once every couple of weeks. Life is spinning around me so quickly right now that I can barely keep up. Everything is changing, and I have a love-hate relationship with change.

My husband, Pete, is a software developer for a large corporation. He has been with this company for six years and he has watched them grow and change. Now, change is on the wind for him. He is currently preparing to strike out on his own. Pete has always wanted to own his own software business, so with the help of a couple of our most brilliant friends, his dream is nearing reality. This is both exciting and terrifying for me. I could not possibly be more proud of him for having the courage to break away from the security of a full-time job. At the same time, I realize that the next few months will be difficult. I want to help, but I am about as technically inclined as a sea cucumber.

My sons continue to grow and change. While K-Man is discovering girls, my little EJ is taking his first steps. Mini Pete is potty training, and Baseball Boy will start Kindergarten in the Fall. They really are growing up too fast.

My girlfriend, Mojo, is suffering through the eternal divorce from a self absorbed @$$, looking for a teaching job, and anxiously awaiting the repair of a car that she hates.

I guess what I am just now beginning to figure out is that no matter how long we keep our children in diapers, or pretend that some people could be capable of caring for us (or anyone else for that matter), or find contentment in our safe, secure jobs, we cannot escape the inevitable. Life will seek us out and force us to come out from under our little rocks.

Finally a Father

My husband has been "Daddy" in our home since the day he moved in. I have two children from my previous marriages. The boys warmed up to him immediately. You know what they say about kids & dogs... From day one, he has read their bedtime stories, tucked them in at night, hauled the telescope up the hill or down the driveway to point out planets, stars, and the occasional eclipse. He goes to baseball practices, withstands hours of Mousetrap, kisses boo-boos, checks homework... and that is just for the two sons he married into.

Having two ex-husbands can lead to a mountain of drama. Fortunately for us, the first one had the decency to drop off the face of the Earth. We have not seen or heard from him in nine years (my son is 10). So after years, literally, of paperwork and legal fees Pete has become a father again.

I am thrilled to announce to the world that Pete has adopted our K-Man. The first thing the judge noticed, after announcing her decision to finalize this adoption, was the monstrously huge grin that came across my son's face. As we walked out of the courthouse yesterday, each had an arm around the other and they talked about cars and stars and video games, the real father-son bonding stuff.